“Because we don’t speak about sex, there is no socially acceptable language surrounding it. So the language of porn has jumped in to fill that space, and that’s an issue, because in a male-dominated industry the language of porn is all too often male-generated. The person who coined the term “finger blasting” didn’t have a vagina. The person who coined the term, “getting your ass railed” never got their ass railed. Pounding, hammering, banging… And language matters, because when the only language you have available is abusive and one-directional, in terms of having things done to you, it creates a very weird view of how sex works.”
“Tumblr is always looking for something to be offended at ugh if you can’t handle jokes than don’t go on Tumblr or the internet”
entitled people who literally get offended by marginalized groups’ desire to feel safe
Seriously this needs to stop. Let’s make a list on why this is gross:
1. “Tumblr” is not a mass entity of social justice bloggers whose mission in life is to annoy you. I’m pretty sure there are more porn and neo nazi blogs than social justice blogs. So why are SJ blogs getting more hate than neo nazi blogs? And why is every blog that mentions oppression called an SJ blog? It’s like people don’t know that oppression is actually a 24/7 experience and not a hypothetical theory.
2. People keep using the word “offended” ad nauseum when talking about this. No one is getting “offended”. No one is getting “offended”. Doesn’t that just mean annoyed? No, people are getting HARMED.Being triggered causes panic attacks and flashbacks. “Jokes” and slurs remind marginalized people that they are not valued and seen as one-dimensional and subhuman. Your stereotypical comments and microaggressions aren’t “mildly irritating”, they’re painful. You are hurting people and instead of changing you’re insisting that you’re the victim. Tbh that level of apathy and callousness is terrifying.
3. Did I miss something? Because I’m pretty sure adding a trigger warning in a post takes .5 seconds, yet you all are whining about it like it’s some huge sacrifice. Wtf? It’s not a big deal at all. You just seem to be angry at the idea of accommodating others. People can’t control their panic attacks or flashbacks, but you can control your tags. But apparently people who need trigger warnings only exist to inconvenience you. Stop making this about you.